‘You Don’t Have to Get Married or Have Kids’ — Actress Tayo Adeniyi Tells Women

• Nollywood actress Tayo Adeniyi has urged women not to base their happiness or self-worth on marriage and motherhood, saying they can live fulfilled lives without either.

Nollywood actress Tayo Adeniyi has advised women not to make marriage and childbearing the ultimate measure of a successful or fulfilled life, urging them to embrace self-worth regardless of their relationship or parental status.

In a video shared on her social media page on Wednesday, the actress encouraged women, particularly those in their late 30s and 40s, to “de-centre” marriage and children, saying fulfilment, happiness and purpose are still possible without either.

“Please, de-centre marriage. You do not have to get married and you do not have to have kids also.

“If you’re in your 40s and you’ve tried your best to find a man to be married or perhaps you’re married and you haven’t got any kids, please, I beg you, you can be whole without these things.

“You can be a whole you without having kids, without having a man in your life. Just get your life together. A whole life doesn’t have to be with a man or with kids,” she said.

Adeniyi urged women not to remain in unhealthy relationships simply to meet societal expectations of marriage or motherhood.

“Don’t put up with nonsense because you want to be married or because you want to have children. Don’t. It’s not worth it.

“Don’t go out of your way to have these things. If it does not come naturally, let it go. Trust me, if it’s going to happen, it will happen and if it is not happening, there’s absolutely nothing you can do to make it happen,” she added.

According to the actress, women should not allow marriage or parenthood to define their identity or happiness.

“You can be happy without children. You can be happy without a husband. Life has changed. Seasons have changed,” she said.

In a separate Instagram post, Adeniyi clarified that “decentralising” marriage and children does not mean rejecting them but refusing to make them the centre of one’s identity and self-worth.

“Decentralising marriage and children means refusing to make them the center of your worth. They can be beautiful blessings, but they are not the only measure of a meaningful life.

“Purpose, peace, service, growth, and love also create a life that matters. Please love yourself first, you are enough,” she wrote.

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